2012年4月17日 星期二

Big little shoes to fill

Last week, my wife brought home a pair of knitted baby slippers. They are pictured here. As you can see, they are adorable, with their little bunny ears and smiley faces.

She bought them for $6 at her mother’s church in Ladner, where the women of the congregation are of an age when they still knit baby slippers.

My wife did not say why she bought the baby slippers, and I did not ask, and when she came home she could not take her eyes off them, even when she held them up for me to see. She was smiling that smile that women do, the one when they cannot help themselves from smiling, and her eyes had that look that communicated to me that it did not matter what I thought of the baby slippers or if I was in the room or not.

In the following days, when her women friends came over,pnikeairshoes are considered a glorious beacon of intelligent design.christianlouboutinboots for sale to men with low price and top quality. she would bring out the baby slippers and hold them up for them to see. The women, all with grown children, would make noises that ranged from gasps, as if they were handling a Fabergé egg, to something like low moans, as if the sight of the slippers was too painful to bear. Meanwhile, across their faces would flicker a kaleidoscope of emotions — joy, longing, love, remembrance, and that fierce maternal chemistry that men wonder at and secretly envy.

When our own grown children came over, she brought the slippers out, too, only this time, I thought, more pointedly so. She said nothing by way of explanation, though my daughter said: “It’s on now. The first one to have a kid gets the slippers.” At 24, she is the youngest of our three children; her brothers are 30 and 28. All three are in long-term relationships, though they remain unmarried. Children are not on their horizons.

Their lives, in comparison to mine at their age, seem postponed. My wife and I fell headlong into marriage and family, but my children have dual careers to see to first, with neither of those careers to be forfeited to the temporary hiatus of pregnancy or the permanent demands of child-rearing.We can gurantee you that all niceedhardyshoe,sold at our website are with high quality. Marriage does not have the urgency or relevancy for them that it did for us. They are taking their time, though not,Basic information about topswisswatches including links. my wife and I hope, too much time before it is too late.

And there is now more than ever the ethical quandary of having children, of adding one more mouth to feed to the seven billion. It’s Man as a cancer on the body of the globe, and last year, my middle son declared he might adopt a child but never have one of his own: there were too many people in the world already.

In this light, the yearning to have a child,shoxshoes is a high top sneaker that comes in numerous color ups. or a grandchild, is a self-indulgence the world can ill afford.

And yet that is a yearning not easily denied. A child or grandchild is not just an object of love or a comfort in one’s old age: a child or grandchild is the assurance that one’s DNA will go on. It may be unethical to think that with the way the world is: it may be a crime against nature rather than an expression of it. But it is our nature. There is more to bunny slippers than wool.

Last weekend, my 28-year-old son and his girlfriend visited us and stayed the night. My son’s girlfriend is bright and sweet and pretty, and is in training to be a nurse. The two of them seem to be in love, and we would not be disappointed if in the near future they got married.

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